Why Some Marriages Fail And Others Don’t: A Maryland Divorce Lawyer’s Insight

As a Maryland divorce attorney, I’ve seen countless marriages end for reasons that often go far beyond simple disagreements. Some couples can withstand immense pressure and rebuild their relationship after financial hardship, infidelity, or emotional distance. Others, however, find that the same challenges expose deep incompatibility or unresolved conflict that leads to separation. Understanding why some marriages endure while others fail can help spouses recognize patterns, address problems early, and, when necessary, pursue divorce with clarity and purpose.

In Maryland, the law provides a clear framework for how and when a marriage can legally end, but the emotional and psychological aspects are far more complex. While no one enters marriage expecting it to collapse, recognizing the warning signs early and understanding how the law protects both spouses can make all the difference when a marriage reaches a breaking point.

Common Reasons Marriages Break Down In Maryland

Many marriages falter due to communication problems, lack of shared values, or differing goals. Emotional disconnection can grow over time, especially when one or both partners feel unheard or unsupported. Financial strain, infidelity, or substance abuse can accelerate the decline, but even minor issues can become major when respect and trust begin to erode.

From a legal perspective, the failure of a marriage often becomes official when one or both spouses reach the point where reconciliation is no longer possible. However, the emotional separation typically happens long before a divorce is filed. In many cases, one spouse may have emotionally checked out of the relationship months or even years before initiating legal proceedings.

Why Some Marriages Survive Challenges

Interestingly, many of the same stressors that end some marriages strengthen others. Couples who maintain open communication, mutual respect, and emotional honesty are often better equipped to handle conflict. They see challenges not as threats but as opportunities to grow together.

Healthy marriages also tend to maintain boundaries and equality. Each partner has autonomy, but both remain accountable to the relationship. These couples often seek counseling or mediation early, before resentment hardens. When spouses approach problems collaboratively, they’re far less likely to view divorce as the only solution.

However, when control, manipulation, or emotional neglect enters the picture, the power dynamic shifts, and one spouse may feel trapped. In those cases, the law serves as both a shield and a path to freedom.

Legal Protections For Spouses In Failing Marriages

When a marriage cannot be repaired, Maryland law offers clear protections. Under Maryland Family Law §8-205, courts have the authority to equitably distribute marital property. This means the court divides assets fairly, though not necessarily equally, taking into account the financial and non-financial contributions of both spouses.

Spousal support, or alimony, may also be awarded under Maryland Family Law §11-106. Courts consider factors such as the duration of the marriage, standard of living, and each spouse’s ability to be self-supporting. This ensures that neither party is left financially devastated after the divorce.

If children are involved, the court must determine custody and parenting time based on the best interests of the child standard under Maryland Family Law §9-101. This includes assessing each parent’s relationship with the child, stability, and ability to provide care.

These statutes exist to protect fairness and provide structure during an emotionally charged process. While the end of a marriage can feel chaotic, the law provides a path forward grounded in balance and justice.

Emotional Realities Behind Divorce

Even with legal structure in place, divorce remains deeply personal. Many clients come to me feeling guilt or shame for not being able to “save” their marriage. I remind them that ending a marriage doesn’t always mean failure—it can be an act of self-preservation and maturity.

Some marriages fail not because of neglect, but because people change. Priorities shift, careers evolve, and emotional needs transform over time. When partners grow in different directions, staying together may become more damaging than parting ways. Recognizing this doesn’t diminish the value of the marriage; it simply acknowledges that not all relationships are meant to last forever.

The healthiest divorces are those where both parties accept reality and move forward respectfully. In Maryland, the mutual consent divorce option has helped many couples achieve closure without years of litigation.

Frequently Asked Questions About Why Marriages Fail And Divorce In Maryland

Can A Spouse Be Forced Into Divorce Counseling In Maryland?

No. Counseling is voluntary, although some judges may encourage it, especially if children are involved. Mediation may be ordered to help resolve disputes regarding custody or finances, but participation in marriage counseling cannot be mandated.

What Happens If Only One Spouse Wants A Divorce?

Maryland allows either spouse to file, even without mutual agreement. If one party objects, the process proceeds as a contested divorce, where the court resolves disputed issues such as property division or custody.

How Do Maryland Courts Divide Marital Assets?

Courts apply equitable distribution under Family Law §8-205, considering factors like the duration of the marriage, contributions of each spouse, and financial circumstances. Marital property includes assets acquired during the marriage, excluding gifts and inheritances.

Does Fault Affect Alimony Or Property Division?

Yes, in some cases. While Maryland is not strictly fault-based for property division, the court may consider misconduct—such as infidelity or financial deception—when determining alimony or asset allocation.

How Can A Divorce Lawyer Help Prevent Costly Mistakes?

An experienced attorney ensures that legal filings are accurate, deadlines are met, and no rights are overlooked. Proper legal guidance can also prevent financial missteps, such as undervaluing assets or agreeing to unfair custody terms.

Call The Law Office Of Sandra Guzman-Salvado

At The Law Office of Sandra Guzman-Salvado, I understand that every marriage and every divorce is unique. Whether the goal is reconciliation, clarity, or closure, legal guidance can help individuals move forward with confidence. Our team provides compassionate yet assertive representation for those facing difficult family transitions.

To schedule a consultation, contact our Maryland divorce lawyer at The Law Office of Sandra Guzman-Salvado by calling (301) 340-1911. With offices in Rockville, Greenbelt, Bethesda, and Frederick, our firm serves clients across Maryland with dedication and integrity.