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I’ve Just Been Served with Divorce Papers. What Do I Do Now?

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You’ve just answered the knock at the door to be greeted by a process server, who hands you divorce papers. Whether this moment was a surprise to you or not, you may be unsure of what to do now. You’ve just been served with divorce papers. What now? The first thing you must do after being served with divorce papers is decide how you will respond. There is a limited amount of time to respond to the initial divorce papers, usually no more than 30 days. [1] If you’re going to hire an attorney, now is a good time to…Read More »

How Will My Divorce Impact My Retirement Benefits?

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Many divorcing couples focus all their time and effort deciding how to divide up the easily liquidated assets – house, cars, bank accounts – and forget to address retirement accounts or other issues that may present themselves down the road. Make no mistake about it: Your divorce will affect your retirement benefits. But the question is how much?  Pension Plans, 401(K)s, and Other Contribution Plans As long as you were contributing to your retirement plan during your marriage, you will have to share at least some portion of your retirement benefits with your former spouse. Exactly how much you need to share…Read More »

Considering Remarriage? Important Things to Consider

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You’ve finally found the love of your life. You are happy and confident in your relationship, but one or both of you have gone through a divorce. What does that mean for you moving forward to marriage? Remarrying after divorce can be tricky. The main factors you’ll want to consider are how it will affect your children and how it may impact your assets. Consider Your Assets Your assets are important. Both you and your significant other have worked hard for what you each possess, and your kids have expectations regarding those assets as well. Consider talking to a family…Read More »

Do I Need To Wait Until I’m Officially Divorced To Date Again? 5 Things To Consider

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You and your spouse have decided to divorce, and now you’re working on rebuilding your life. As you start over, you may consider beginning to date again. But is it wise to take up a new relationship before your divorce is finalized? Here are 5 things to consider before you make the decision to hop back into the dating pool while separated: Are YOU ready? Just because your relationship has ended doesn’t mean you’re ready – emotionally, mentally, or even physically – to move immediately into a new relationship. This is an especially important question to give some real thought…Read More »

Dividing Property in Divorce: What’s Separate & What’s Marital?

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In a divorce, dividing up property is much more complicated than figuring out who gets to keep the good china and who takes the comfy recliner. There are many factors to consider, including who purchased the property, when it was purchased, and whether the other spouse contributed to the upkeep of said property. Property in a divorce falls into two main categories: Separate and marital. What is the difference between separate property and marital property? Separate property is property that either was acquired prior to the marriage, after the date of separation, or property that is exempted from being considered…Read More »

5 Tips for Navigating Holidays for Blended Families

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The holidays are full of wonderful things – gifts, good food, carols, nights by the fire, and family time. But the desire to have that “perfect” holiday season can cause a great deal of stress for parents, especially those with blended families. Here are 5 things to remember when navigating a holiday season that’s full of step relatives, parenting time changes, and potential conflict: Plan Ahead You can’t possibly do everything you want to do in a holiday season, even under ideal household conditions. But planning becomes even more important when you have to navigate multiple households and changes of…Read More »

Easing Tension During Divorce: 5 Key Tips

In the midst of a divorce, even the easiest of conversations with your ex can be fraught with tension. The person who was once your closest ally has become a potential enemy, sometimes opposing your ideas just because. Every conversation doesn’t have to involve a huge emotional expenditure. Here are 5 key tips for helping to decrease stress during a divorce: Keep Communications To Email or Text Though communicating in person or over the phone is considered best, when in the midst of a contentious divorce it may be best to take a step back and use less personal forms…Read More »

Marital vs. Non-Marital Debt: Who Owes What?

You and your spouse have come to the conclusion that it’s time to go your separate ways and file for divorce. You’ve figured out who gets the cars, the house, the furniture, even the blender someone bought you for your wedding. But when it comes to debts, how do you split those? Debt Incurred Before Marriage In Maryland, debts incurred prior to a marriage are not considered marital debt. Md. Code Ann., Family Law, §4-301. That means your spouse’s car payment, credit card debt, or student loans that were taken out prior to your marriage **will not** be your responsibility…Read More »

It’s Their Way or the Highway: Co-Parenting with a Narcissist

You have heard it one too many times. You have dealt with their selfish comments, their inability to apologize and their abusive, harsh words. It makes parenting so much harder than it needs to be. When narcissism takes over, simple conversations can become unbearable and non-productive. Co-parenting with a narcissistic ex-spouse may be one of the most difficult things you have to go through, but you must rise above it. The first step to understanding how to co-parent with a narcissistic ex-spouse is to recognize the symptoms. “Narcissism is the personality trait of egotism, vanity, conceit, or simple selfishness.” [1]…Read More »

The Emotional Ride of Infidelity

In today’s society, couples get married for a number of different reasons. Some of these motivators include finances, companionship, to have children and of course, for love. Although any of these might provide the initial incentive to walk down the aisle, it doesn’t always guarantee a happy ending. A study done by the Associated Press, “Journal of Marital and Family Therapy,” indicates that 41% of all men and women will cheat on their spouse. [2] If you are dealing with infidelity then your most pressing question is, “How can I understand my feelings and move towards a solution?” In order…Read More »